Rowena Schade Speaks Out

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Matt and Rowena Scahde say they went on the run with their 2 kids for 17 days because they feared the state of Nebraska was going to take their children from them.

Matt and Rowena Scahde say they went on the run with their 2 kids for 17 days because they feared the state of Nebraska was going to take their children from them.

By Chuck Harmer

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The Shade family left their home in Creighton, NE and drove to the Black Hills and at some point came back from the Black Hills and found an old farm house near Creighton.  But why?  Well, most of those answers are written in the 2 page letter that we received from Rowena at the Knox County Jail this afternoon.

Rowena wrote this letter from behind her jail bars in Center, NE where she's being held.  In her letter Rowena wrote about when the troubles began for her and her husband.  "Last november, matthew and i had gotten in to an argument and i pushed him down a couple stairs. he ran back up the stairs and pushed me back.  i fell into the corner of the kitchen table and got a black eye."
    
At that point Rowena said there was pressure from family and friends to leave her husband.  She says, "I did not see how a pushing match justified throwing away everything we have worked to build... now i know how much it would hurt Matthew if I left and took the children and was unsure of how he'd react.  I figured it was possible that he might hurt me, himself or someone else.  we are his whole world."

She continued to say, "I was still questioning if leaving was the right thing to do at all but knew i could not stay now or the state would try to take the children."

And that's why they left.

Rowena says, "we had no reason to leave except that our family had been threatened to be broken up.   We had a nice home and I had a good job.  Our fines were paid and our obligations had been met for probation.  We were scared, even more so when we realized SWAT was after us."   

Another startling thing that Rowena wrote in this letter regarded her children, she said, "we took the kids out of school after Christmas.  After that, the pressure on me to leave Matt increased dramatically.  one time our daughter was even checked for bruises while staying at a friends house."

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Saturday, Apr 11 at 3:58 PM Dsatexas wrote ...

Mr & Mrs Schade personally admitted to theft, burgarly, child endangerment & numerous other charges in their interviews, conversation & letter. I would like to hear more from them, wouldn't you?

Friday, Apr 10 at 1:31 PM Anonymous wrote ...

What they both did was stupid. Now the sob story. Not buying it. She's going to need a good attorney for all of the breaking and entering and vehicle stealing. Why run if you are on the end of you first stint with the law and go on a second spree? Stand up to your problems. Life sucks.

Friday, Apr 10 at 1:00 PM Anonymous wrote ...

Oh please, Social Service does NOT apologize, what planet are you from? And when kids are taken away, it's almost impossible to get them back. When kids get adopted out, people make money off of them. So why would they give them back right away? lol But thats goverment for ya.

Friday, Apr 10 at 10:25 AM Anonymous wrote ...

First class scam on her part.

Friday, Apr 10 at 10:02 AM Sarah wrote ...

I feel she wanted to do what was best, but instead did the very, very wrong thing. I feel bad for her, but I don't feel she is a good mom. As one person said, stand your ground. You don't run. Running proves your guilty. And then to go on a crime spree to boot! Maybe DSS was being pushy, but they wouldn't just pull the kids and throw them up for adoption without looking into it. Maybe they would be without their kids for a few days, but they would have been returned with an apology.

Friday, Apr 10 at 8:32 AM Anonymous wrote ...

I feel very sorry for this family, That this woman was put in this position where her family was being compromised I feel that dss was doing what they were supposed to do and honestly think that if there was no abuse involved that they would have been able to keep their children. I feel that her family members were telling her to leave because they thought that her or her children may have been in danger and that rowena might have been sugar coating the situation a little bit.

Friday, Apr 10 at 7:40 AM "Fred" wrote ...

Why can't all of you back off of Rowena so she can think straight and figure out what she is going to do with this situation. Those kids were not being abused-DSS needs to worry about those that really do some damage to thier children, such as the child that had been stabbed over and over, or the child with the ball-sized scab on the back of it's head. C'mon now.....abuse and fear can make a person do very strange and unusual thing. I know Ro, she may act like she's flighty, but she's not.

Thursday, Apr 9 at 7:25 PM JESSA wrote ...

BULL!! you are trying to tell me the kids didnt know why they were running?? You know that they did, do you not think the kids were fully aware of why? Of course they had the talk with them. if they say this you say that come on look at thier actions they speak for themselves. stealing fire trucks running around like fools..

Thursday, Apr 9 at 1:49 PM Anonymous wrote ...

I hardly doubt they "brainwashed" their kids. Even when they were making mistakes, they STILL made sure that the kids were being taken care of. That is more important. As for the letter she wrote, why not take advantage of it for a lawyer. So what???? Social Service usually only gets called when someone is upset with the family. SS is suppose to be there to help, not try and take kids away whenever they feel like it. More Social workers should do just that. HELP the family, including the parents

Thursday, Apr 9 at 12:49 PM jessa wrote ...

that letter was ridiculous everything she said was classic of a women being abused! hello!!! the state did what was best for the family! I dont feel bad for you, look what you have dont to those children!! what a selfish act!!i am sure the whole time they were gone they were brain washed over and over, when they question you say this or they will take you and you will never see us again! Geez what a weight to put on a child! you made your bed no lie in it!!

Thursday, Apr 9 at 9:30 AM anonymous wrote ...

No one ever knows the reality of it until they have had DSS take their kids away for "alleged abuse". It is a nightmare! They consider you guilty even when there is no proof, only one person's word against your own. They take kids away from their home, notify the parents by leaving a note on the door, and put them in foster care with strangers. It happened to me and I was not abusing my kids, just had an upset ex-husband that didn't want to pay child support. It took me a year to get them back!

Thursday, Apr 9 at 8:53 AM Anonymous wrote ...

Oh cry me a river, you stand your ground, you don't go on another crime spree. Let alone involve your kids. Idiots.

Thursday, Apr 9 at 8:43 AM Sally wrote ...

Just another example of government services interfering with people's personal lives. I have seen so many cases where abuse situations are ignored, but also situations as this one claims where SS should not be involved and they are, often to the detriment of the children. So what now Nebraska? Will you break up a family while prosecuting "kidnapping and child endangerment" or whatever charges just because someone made an accusation? Innocent until proven guilty ya right. Good luck to the family.

Thursday, Apr 9 at 8:33 AM Anonymous wrote ...

Unfortunately, many do not realize some of these workers have absolutely nothing but text book experiences. Most fresh out of college with no children; and possibly no child care experience. The officers are young men as well; all parties wanting to play authority card. I feel sorry for young parents - this definetly needs a good, warm, experienced DSS attorney.

Thursday, Apr 9 at 7:57 AM dss wrote ...

we see this all the time people in authority taking advantage or making things worse than they really are. just like to cop in the news who threatened that family who was trying to get to there dying mother and mother in law. the problem is one person can make one hole department look like a@#e@@. I have also seen incidences were SS have gone overboard and it is bs. I think its ever parents nightmare your kid falls and gets a bruise and all you can think is oh s@#$ social services

Thursday, Apr 9 at 6:53 AM Anonymous wrote ...

This does not give them the right to go on a crime spree of breaking into peoples cabins and stealing vehicles.

Thursday, Apr 9 at 6:48 AM Anonymous wrote ...

She was just looking for a free lawyer and got some air time to do so.

Wednesday, Apr 8 at 11:02 PM Anonymous wrote ...

This is rediculous if there was no proof of abuse then socoal services has no right to threaten the mother to leave her husband or take the kids..why dont they take kids from the people that deserve it. I hope this family gets help and can be reunited!

Wednesday, Apr 8 at 10:23 PM Anonymous wrote ...

While at the friends house, why was this child checked for bruises?? If anyone suspected abuse, they should have mentioned it to the proper athorites instead. More people lookin to just cause trouble.

Wednesday, Apr 8 at 10:20 PM Anonymous wrote ...

DSS is a joke. They don't take away children that are abused. They do however have a problem with parents that do take care of their kids. I have had experience with them. And you always have to worry about Social Service when it comes to people like you (second comment) I'm sure you are one of those people that look out the window at watch your neighbors because you have no life, and love to cause drama. this family has made mistakes, but I hope they get some help with this. Family is #1

Wednesday, Apr 8 at 9:56 PM dawn wrote ...

i feel sorry for her sounds like dss needs to back off the kids where noy hurt .sounds like they are loved alot.i feel sorry for her

Wednesday, Apr 8 at 9:30 PM T wrote ...

I don't know what to completely think about this.. BUT I do know I would go on the run if what she said social services did was true and they did that to me. To most people family is everything, DCF should go after people who don't think that way!

Wednesday, Apr 8 at 9:21 PM Anonymous wrote ...

I thinks social workders are only doing their job and protecting their children. If you take care of your kids you don't have to worry about it!!!!

Wednesday, Apr 8 at 8:40 PM Lar wrote ...

Family services want/need to break apart families. If they don't they have to get real jobs like the rest of us. I'm sure there are people out there they help but for the most part they drive wedges between family members for their own personal benefit.

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