For millions of baby boomers, caring for their aging parents is already a reality. For millions others it will be one day. Nancy Naeve Brown talked with a Sioux Falls woman, who with her 3 siblings, was forced to make the decision for her hospitalized parents to put them into a retirement community.
Julie Lindner lives in Sioux Falls and visits her mom and dad Mado and Pete Pederson just about everyday. Mado and Pete moved from their Sioux Falls house to Avera Prince of Peace in September 2009. Pete has Alzheimer's and suffered 2 strokes within 5 weeks of each other and now needs more care than Mado alone can give him. Pete lives in long-term care and Mado lives on campus in her own apartment at Laurel Oaks. At the time of their move, it was out of necessity, but not necessarily planned.
Julie says, "They wanted to say home. That was their plan. If you brought it up a wall came up. They didn't want to have that conversation. Unfortunately for them they had some of their independence taken away and we had to make that choice for them."
Mado says, "I wish we would have talked more about it before the time came when we had to do it. But you put if off and chose this because of care issue and we could be under the same roof and it wouldn't jeopardize his living or my living and the physical therapy department is so good. All the departments are terrific. That's why we chose it."
Social Worker at Avera Prince of Peace Amanda Taylor says, "I think timing is so huge. I see so many families in my office in crisis because mom and dad are in the hospital and need to find placement as soon as possible. If families can plan ahead and come out and do tours and get mom and dads ideas on where they might want to live. It can make a huge difference."
Julie says, "It's been wonderful and for all my siblings living out of state, for them knowing they are well cared for they're safe and if they need additional help it's there."
In the end, Julie and Mado say everything worked out well and they did the right thing. Their advice to others in their shoes: talk about your choices for long-term care way before you ever need it that way everyone is involved in the process and happy with the outcome.
The folks at Avera Prince of Peace would love to take you and your family on a tour just call ahead to set up a time.
Avera Prince of Peace Retirement Community
4500 S. Prince of Peace Place
Sioux Falls, SD, 57103